Free self-help
Welcome to perhaps the best free self-help website that is also free of advertisements. The documents below, over 2,000 pages, are full of tips and resources I collected for living happily and wisely. Sharing them is the best way I can uniquely help you in life. There is no catch.
I kept the files in Microsoft Word so you can edit, expand, and share them with your children and grandchildren as a collection of written family wisdom that they can then edit and share with the following generations. I suggest downloading the files since this website won't be here forever; you do not have to give any personal information to do so, such as an email address. Farther below I explain my motives.
The six categories: your purpose in life, tips for teachers, other careers, your possessions and travels, your health, and your relationships
The six categories: your purpose in life, tips for teachers, other careers, your possessions and travels, your health, and your relationships
Help for finding your life purpose: - assessing your personality type and learning style (4 pp.) - assessing your religious and philosophical beliefs (1 p.) - brainstorming your life purpose (for retirees too) (11 pp.) - simplifying your life to crystallize your purpose (5 pp.) - connecting your purpose to daily tasks (35 pp.)
Help for teachers:
- teaching social studies and English / language arts (318 pp.) - a bookmark for your internet browser with over 250 websites for teaching these subjects Activities for teaching history (PDF files): - World: prehistory - 1600 C.E. (135 pp.) - World: 1600 - present (124 pp.) - U.S.: 1492 - 1900 (72 pp.) - U.S.: 1900 - present (119 pp.)
Help for other careers: - advocacy and activism (22 pp.) - building a nonprofit (187 pp.) - building online groups, forums, and communities (14 pp.) - business letters (3 pp.) - doing humanitarian work elsewhere (3 pp.) - finding a co-founder (3 pp.) - intra-enterprise collaboration software (1 p.) - leadership, delegation and feedback (12 pp.) - negotiating (11 pp.) - picking a crowd-sourcing provider (4 pp.) - pitching and selling (12 pp.) - public speaking (19 pp.) - self-publishing your book or e-book (117 pp.) - using online video (22 pp.) - website design and analytics (27 pp.) - wikis and social bookmarks (5 pp.) - working with or being a freelancer or consultant (11 pp.)
Help for your possessions and travels: - your money (58 pp.) - your home (35 pp.) - your automobile (10 pp.) - budget travel & overseas relocation (25 pp.) - buying a mattress (5 pp.) - buying a carpet (2 pp.) - using a personal lawyer (5 pp.)
Help for your health: - building strong habits (4 pp.) - exercising (35 pp.) - nutrition and 550 low-fat recipes (171 pp.) - health costs and physical healing (14 pp.) Help for your relationships: - managing your feelings and emotional needs (51 pp.) - dating, partner communication, & the engagement period (52 pp.) - PG-13 romance with your partner (49 pp.) - holistic intimacy with your partner - not for work nor kids (246 pp.) - parenting (134 pp.) - caregivers, the dying, the bereaved, and executors (20 pp.)
Help for your health: - building strong habits (4 pp.) - exercising (35 pp.) - nutrition and 550 low-fat recipes (171 pp.) - health costs and physical healing (14 pp.) Help for your relationships: - managing your feelings and emotional needs (51 pp.) - dating, partner communication, & the engagement period (52 pp.) - PG-13 romance with your partner (49 pp.) - holistic intimacy with your partner - not for work nor kids (246 pp.) - parenting (134 pp.) - caregivers, the dying, the bereaved, and executors (20 pp.)
Some time ago, I had a vision of the best possible peace process for the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, involving a day school for the children of the Israeli and Palestinian politicians themselves, especially of the extremists on each end. It is based on the concept of a line house, a structure built to straddle the border between two jurisdictions. There has yet to be a line house in the world that is a school, let alone a school designed to attract the children of those who have political power, enough wealth to send their child to any school, and extreme ideologies.
When I went to explain this to important people, I was so anxious that I could not articulate it; my intuitive mind had jumped out ahead of my rational mind. Meanwhile, friends said I was onto something very important and potentially game-changing, and this of course just made me more anxious. I also envisioned as seen in this image a school straddling the border between Gaza and southwestern Israel, exactly where an attack then happened on Oct. 7, 2023, along with similar line-house schools in about ten other intransigent conflicts in the world.
I grasped I could only decrease my anxiety if I put aside this concept and systematically de-cluttered my mind.
I first handwrote hundreds of letters to heal past interactions or to let go of feelings of indebtedness towards certain people. I then gave away those tangible possessions that conflicted with the identity of this path, especially if I suddenly had to move abroad. I also eliminated most of my paper files and digital data. However, I still felt quite anxious. Therefore, I obsessively researched topics that made me feel anxious in the slightest regardless of how pertinent they were to this concept. I formatted the findings for each of these topics in a MS Word document with its own table of contents.
Originally I was going to keep these documents to myself, but then I realized they might be able to help anyone who knows English. When I was 21, both my last grandparent and my father passed away. All the wisdom they had yet to share was gone forever. I saw in that moment that if I were to have a child and then die when that child was still young, the wisdom I had yet to impart would also be gone forever. This applies to all families, and thus these documents can serve as a seed for any family's trove of written wisdom that can then be put onto a hard drive at home and frequently edited.
Besides some general topics, I added ones for the professions I have been in as well as for stuff like buying a carpet or a mattress that are surprisingly technical and that I had to research for my own home. Most of the information is solid wisdom, but I now know that the healthiest recipes are low-calorie, low-glycemic, low-gluten, and high-fiber, and not just low-fat. Regarding the holistic-intimacy document, I made that synthesis from a lot of books and shared it here to help prevent children's parents from getting divorced. I figure that the happier a couple's bedroom life is, the happier their marriage will be, their chances of divorce in the future will then lessen, and in turn the chances that their children will experience that unnecessary pain. I continue to have a lot of second thoughts about posting this document and how it might make me look, but I feel it is more important to help even just one child's parents stay together. It is the best document on this website, perhaps the best free document on the Internet on this topic, and the one to forward to your closest adult friends as it might help out their marriages too.
One other website worth mentioning here is the best personal-finance website that is free with no advertisements, the Bogleheads Forum, named after John Bogle, the founder of Vanguard, the mutual-fund company. You can create a free profile, anonymously explain your finances in exact detail to 130,000 other members, and ask for investment advice or for a confirmation that you are doing okay with your budget or portfolio. You will likely get several good responses, including one or two from investment advisers who are happy to both help you and reveal their real name. They know that doing this lets them be found in a Google search by prospective clients who might be thinking of hiring that adviser and thus want insight into that person's mind. It doesn't matter if your net worth is $50 or $50 million.
If this site helps you in some way, please share it with others. You never know how they might benefit.
I first handwrote hundreds of letters to heal past interactions or to let go of feelings of indebtedness towards certain people. I then gave away those tangible possessions that conflicted with the identity of this path, especially if I suddenly had to move abroad. I also eliminated most of my paper files and digital data. However, I still felt quite anxious. Therefore, I obsessively researched topics that made me feel anxious in the slightest regardless of how pertinent they were to this concept. I formatted the findings for each of these topics in a MS Word document with its own table of contents.
Originally I was going to keep these documents to myself, but then I realized they might be able to help anyone who knows English. When I was 21, both my last grandparent and my father passed away. All the wisdom they had yet to share was gone forever. I saw in that moment that if I were to have a child and then die when that child was still young, the wisdom I had yet to impart would also be gone forever. This applies to all families, and thus these documents can serve as a seed for any family's trove of written wisdom that can then be put onto a hard drive at home and frequently edited.
Besides some general topics, I added ones for the professions I have been in as well as for stuff like buying a carpet or a mattress that are surprisingly technical and that I had to research for my own home. Most of the information is solid wisdom, but I now know that the healthiest recipes are low-calorie, low-glycemic, low-gluten, and high-fiber, and not just low-fat. Regarding the holistic-intimacy document, I made that synthesis from a lot of books and shared it here to help prevent children's parents from getting divorced. I figure that the happier a couple's bedroom life is, the happier their marriage will be, their chances of divorce in the future will then lessen, and in turn the chances that their children will experience that unnecessary pain. I continue to have a lot of second thoughts about posting this document and how it might make me look, but I feel it is more important to help even just one child's parents stay together. It is the best document on this website, perhaps the best free document on the Internet on this topic, and the one to forward to your closest adult friends as it might help out their marriages too.
One other website worth mentioning here is the best personal-finance website that is free with no advertisements, the Bogleheads Forum, named after John Bogle, the founder of Vanguard, the mutual-fund company. You can create a free profile, anonymously explain your finances in exact detail to 130,000 other members, and ask for investment advice or for a confirmation that you are doing okay with your budget or portfolio. You will likely get several good responses, including one or two from investment advisers who are happy to both help you and reveal their real name. They know that doing this lets them be found in a Google search by prospective clients who might be thinking of hiring that adviser and thus want insight into that person's mind. It doesn't matter if your net worth is $50 or $50 million.
If this site helps you in some way, please share it with others. You never know how they might benefit.